Surround Yourself with Those Who See Greatness the Within You

In our blog, we often discuss green beauty tips that help bring out your natural radiance from the outside. However, true beauty starts from within; it’s about who you are as a person, about giving life to your passions and expressing what makes you uniquely you. It’s much easier to do this when you feel supported by those who see the greatness in you – or your potential for greatness not yet expressed.

It’s been said that you are the sum total of the five people you spend the most time with. What kind of feedback do you get from the people closest to you? How might you make changes to your inner circle to transform your life?

The following are six key qualities to look for in friends and associates (and cultivate in yourself) to help you forge mutually uplifting relationships:

1. Makes Their Own Greatness a Priority

It’s difficult for someone to see and support the greatness in you if they aren’t working toward it themselves. Gravitate toward people who are already on the path to their own personal greatness.

2. Manages Jealousy, Envy and Competitiveness

These qualities can flare up in anyone, but the best friends don’t let them get the better of your relationship. Ideal friends can manage these emotions honestly and understand that each person achieving greatness in their own way is a win-win for all. A rising tide raises all ships.

3. Listens and Holds Space

The best friends and associates are also good listeners (you should be, too.) Take note if they are really hearing you or if they are preoccupied with their own thoughts and opinions. They should also be good at letting you “talk out” your own ideal solutions to problems you might be facing.

4. Has Great Advice

Those who support the emergence of your greatness offer quality advice based upon being present with you and hearing your concerns. If a friend consistently offers truly insightful and inspired advice, they are likely a “keeper.”

5. Doesn’t Gossip

People who talk about others behind their backs should be regarded with caution and suspicion. Gossiping is a red flag, and that person could eventually turn on you and talk about you negatively as well.

6. Doesn’t Withhold Praise

Does your potential friend give respect where it is due? This indicates they take genuine pleasure in others’ successes. Conversely, withholding praise indicates traits of jealousy and competition. The best friends and supporters don’t see life as a zero-sum game; they know that more greatness and success in the world benefits us all.

One of the keys to a successful, fulfilling life is having high-quality, encouraging, positive and motivating people in your corner. Look for others with the six qualities described here, and you’ll likely be friends for life.